MEET LALENA

"For as long as I can remember, I have been drawn to the places most people learn to avoid. The thresholds. The questions that refuse easy answers. The hidden patterns shaping our relationships, choices, longings, and sense of belonging"

HI, I'M LALENA ROSE

I am a mother of five teenage sons, a writer, and a guide with a lifelong fascination for the deeper currents moving beneath our lives. For as long as I can remember, I have been drawn to the places most people learn to avoid. The thresholds. The questions that refuse easy answers. The hidden patterns shaping our relationships, choices, longings, and sense of belonging.

My work creates spaces for women to encounter the parts of themselves that are waiting to be uncovered, reclaimed, or more fully lived.

Many of the women I work with have spent much of their lives creating, giving, leading, nurturing, and holding space for others. They are thoughtful, capable, and deeply committed to their growth. They have gathered wisdom through experience and often carry remarkable gifts.

Yet many find themselves arriving at a point in life where something new is asking to emerge. A deeper expression of themselves. A creative calling. A new chapter. A different way of relating to life. What often stands in the way is not a lack of insight or experience, but a lack of nourishment, support, and rootedness.

I am devoted to helping women develop the inner and outer resources needed to meet this threshold and step more fully into the life that is calling them.

WHAT I DISCOVERED

For many years I worked within modalities that primarily addressed the relational layers of the nervous system; the places shaped through attachment, safety, belonging, and human connection. This work was often profound. I witnessed women access forgotten parts of themselves, reclaim lost aspects of their power, and gain deeper insight into the patterns shaping their lives.

Yet over time I began to notice something.

While these approaches could create meaningful shifts, they did not always create lasting ones. I found myself becoming increasingly curious about why.

At the same time, I was having experiences in my own life that I could not easily explain. The more time I spent on the land, walking barefoot, building relationship with place, visiting sacred sites, and immersing myself in the wider living world, the more alive I felt. Physical symptoms would lessen. My energy would return. A deeper sense of vitality, clarity, and belonging would emerge. I noticed something similar in the work I was doing with others. When the land became part of the process, the impact often seemed to reach beyond what these modalities alone could achieve.

This led me to begin looking at the healing industry through a fresh lens.

I started to question whether we had become overly focused on the human layers of experience while overlooking the wider ecological context in which those experiences unfold. What I came to understand is that the nervous system does not develop in isolation. It is shaped through relationship; with other people, certainly, but also with environment, rhythm, movement, place, stress, season, and the wider conditions we live within. Over time, the body organises itself around what it has known. Patterns of tension, protection, vigilance, responsiveness, and disconnection are not random. They are intelligent adaptations to experience.

It wasn’t until I began training in Eco-Somatics that I found language for what I had already been witnessing. I was introduced to a view of the nervous system that extended beyond attachment and regulation into the deeper evolutionary layers of our being. Layers that orient through rhythm, instinct, movement, and relationship with the wider living world. Layers that existed long before the human story began.

This changed how I understood healing, belonging, and feminine power.

I came to see that in order for us to fully embody our gifts, our creativity, our leadership, and our feminine power, we need more than individual practices. We need roots. Roots that connect us not only to ourselves and our communities, but to the deeper currents of life and the ancient intelligences that have shaped our bodies for billions of years.

My APPROACH

Every woman who arrives in this work brings a unique history, nervous system organisation, set of gifts, and way of meeting the world. For this reason, I do not work from a fixed protocol or apply the same process to everyone. Instead, I listen for what is trying to emerge. What movement has stalled. What adaptation once served but no longer does. What capacity is waiting to be reclaimed.

Different practices support different layers.

Some help restore fluidity where life has become rigid. Some support grounding and structure where there has been fragmentation or collapse. Some help us access power, expression, creativity, and agency. Others help us reconnect with belonging, meaning, and the deeper support available through relationship with life. The question beneath all of the work is simple:

What is trying to complete itself here?

The practices I draw upon may include movement, breathwork, embodied astrology, somatic exploration, eco-somatic practices, relational work, touch-based approaches, and nervous system resourcing. Yet the practices themselves are never the destination. They are simply different doorways into the body’s intelligence.

Together, they help us explore the layers of experience that shape how we relate to ourselves, others, and the wider world.

QUALIFICATIONS

My work is informed by both lived experience and professional training.

Formal training and certifications include:

• Sacred Sexual Awakening and Healing
• Primal Therapeutic Experiential Astrology

• Kundalini Yoga Training
• Fundamentals of Embodied Facilitation
• Eco-Somatics Practitioner Training

Alongside these trainings, my understanding has been shaped by over two decades of personal exploration, professional practice, motherhood, recovery, embodiment, and relationship with the living world.

writing

I am currently writing Unskinned, a memoir of my life.

It traces my early years in South Africa, my adolescence in the UK, and the years that followed as I moved through different environments, relationships, and identities. It follows the path I took into adulthood, the life I built, and the point at which it began to unravel.

The book moves through a series of lived experiences that shaped me — loss, displacement, addiction, motherhood, illness, and the moments that forced a deeper reckoning with myself and the life I was living.

Writing it has not been a linear process. It has taken time to come into a way of telling the story that feels true to the experience itself. Much of what is written comes from returning to the body, to memory, and to the details that were held there rather than in clear narrative.

Some parts have been difficult to revisit. Others have brought a different kind of clarity. What has remained constant is a commitment to staying close to what actually happened, without shaping it into something easier to hold.

Unskinned follows a movement through descent, threshold, and return. It documents what it is to lose a sense of ground, to move through periods of instability, and to come back into a more direct relationship with life.

It is a personal account, written from lived experience.

THE JOURNEY

I was born in South Africa in the early eighties to a mother and father I would never meet, known only through fragments in adoption papers. At ten months old, I was adopted into an upper-class South African family, joining my already adopted brother.

From the outside, my beginnings looked secure. There was structure, expectation, and a clear sense of how life was meant to be lived.

My childhood was also shaped by movement. By the age of nine, I had lived in three different countries before returning to South Africa. I became skilled at adapting to new environments, reading what was needed around me, and finding ways to belong.

At the same time, I was deeply affected by the people who were part of our daily life. The maids, gardeners, and local people who moved through our home left a lasting impression on me. The warmth, vitality, and sense of connection I experienced through them stood in contrast to the world I inhabited. Even as a child, I carried a quiet awareness that I did not fully belong to either world.

That question of belonging followed me into adolescence.

When my mother died at sixteen, I moved to the UK to live with my father. The relationship broke down and I left home at seventeen. Over the years that followed, I built a life, relationships, and a successful career in the creative industries. From the outside, things appeared to be working. Yet beneath the surface I was still searching for something I could not name.

Eventually the structures I had built began to unravel. Relationships ended, direction became unclear, and I found myself in the grip of drug addiction. Much of what I had relied upon fell away, forcing me to confront parts of myself I had spent years avoiding.

At twenty-eight, I gave birth to my first son. Two years later, I became pregnant with naturally conceived quadruplets. Motherhood stretched me beyond anything I had known. It also brought me face to face with myself.

My body became the place where everything surfaced.

The years that followed were marked by illness, exhaustion, and a growing recognition that I could no longer continue living in the way I always had. I began exploring what it meant to work with my body rather than against it, and for the first time started to see the connections between my physical health, my emotional life, and the patterns that had shaped me for decades.

A defining moment came in 2016 when I was told that cancerous cells had been found in my womb and that a hysterectomy was the recommended course of action.

I left that appointment knowing I wanted to understand my body differently.

What followed was not a single breakthrough but years of exploration. I immersed myself in embodiment, feminine spirituality, sexual healing, astrology, nervous system work, and ecology. I trained in Sacred Sexual Awakening, Primal Therapeutic Experiential Astrology, and later Eco-Somatics.

More importantly, I began living differently.

Over time, the lifelong tendency to adapt, perform, and orient around the needs of others began to soften. In its place, a different kind of grounding emerged. One that did not depend on achievement, certainty, or external validation, but on a deeper relationship with myself, the earth, and life itself.

Today I live in Wales with my children, where rivers, forests, and the rhythms of the seasons form part of everyday life.

The search for belonging that shaped so much of my early years has not disappeared, but it has changed.

Today, belonging feels less like something I am trying to find and more like a relationship I continue to deepen.

The work I offer grows from this ground. It is shaped through lived experience, through the body, and through years of inquiry into what it means to be fully human.